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To be fair, it’s a trick question. There isn’t a single right answer… more like 7.7 billion right answers. For every person on earth, there is a different definition of success.
Some of you might be rejoicing in the fact that it’s completely up to you; but others are perhaps slightly hyperventilating, because there is no one to map it out for them.
When you define success in the terms outlined by your parents, partner, friends, what society says, etc. even if you achieve those milestones, it won’t mean much or bring true satisfaction to you.
Just like one-size-fits-all clothing does fit everyone, it doesn’t mean it looks good on everyone or that each person is happy with how it fits them. Same thing with success. You can attain the money and prestige others think is the epitome of success but still feel empty at the end of the day.
Before you can start creating your own definition, you must give up the beliefs you have that are based on others’ visions of success. If you don’t fit into those definitions, that is OK. Because, guess what, those around you probably won’t really live up to your definition either.
While the definitions are subjective, the road to getting to your own version of success is pretty objective.
Why do you want success?
The first and most important step is to understand yourself and your motivations and to value what makes you unique.
Sit down with a piece of paper. We highly recommend taking a real sheet of paper, not digital notes, because thoughts flow more freely when we physically write. Answer the following questions with as much detail as possible.
Understand your obstacles
Challenges are inevitable on any road to success that you may map out. It’s your motivation and persistence to overcome them that is a deciding factor of whether you will cross the finish line or not.
Having a general idea of where you want to go and how to keep going once things get difficult is enough. Start and readjust as you go, and your road will open with each turn even if it’s a wrong turn.
To give yourself the push to take a step towards your version of success, consider these questions:
Take a good look at your answers to the questions above. Is there one main idea that sticks out to you? If so, you may have just found your definition of success. Now it’s time to start moving towards it!